Gay Marriage, or Just Fat People Who Fail at Dieting?

I believe I had this conversation with my folks about a year ago on the topic of Civil Unions and Gay Marriage.  With their ultra-conservative views on the world, they see the topic as sort of a frolick:  “Gay people chose to be gay and they’re just trying to be trouble-makers for those of us heterosexuals who are serious about our relationships.”

On of the notations I pointed out, among many of course, was the issue of hospitalization.  Many gay couples find their life-partners thrown into Emergency Rooms for whatever reason and the hospital staff simply cuts off access to the partner primarily out of legal issues.

“How’s that?!” My Dad said angrily as the waitress finished refilling his coffee cup.

“The hospital is legally bound to protect its patients, and since the law doesn’t recognize the life-partner as a married spouse, the hospital has no way of validating the claim and they’re not willing to risk it!”

My Dad wasn’t convinced: “Oh bah…  And besides … How often does that happen anyway?  Like… Once every three years?”

From Joe.My.God just the other day:

Kristin Orbin collapsed with an epileptic seizure after marching 14 miles from Selma to Fresno in Saturday’s Meet In The Middle march. Her partner Teresa Rowe was then denied access to Orbin’s hospital room and was not allowed to direct her medical care despite offering to provide documentation that she was entitled to do so.

Orbin said the paramedic told the nurse on duty that she had collapsed after marching 14 miles for civil rights, and the nurse gave her a dirty look and said “ooooh.” She continued, “I asked if Teresa could come back with me, but the nurse told me I was in a no visitor zone. When I asked her why everyone else had visitors, she said ‘those people are different’.” Orbin said she went to sleep at that point, but she was awakened by a nurse giving her the benzodiazapine Ativan, a drug that causes her to have severe migraine headaches. It was then that she discovered just how bad the situation had become. “Teresa was finally able to make her way up to the front desk and convince them to get a cell phone to me. When I talked to her, she said she had told the nursing staff not to give me Ativan, but they refused to listen to her. They refused to take my medical cards from her. They refused Teresa’s offer to have my advance directive and power of attorney faxed over from UCSF.” Orbin said she asked the nurses several times if Rowe could join her, but each time they refused. “They just kept looking at my Marriage Equality shirt and giving me dirty looks,” she said. Orbin and Rowe were not reunited until a doctor intervened a few hours later.

Now, could you imagine that going on in your life?  Your wife collapses in an epileptic seizure and is whisked away to the Emergency Room.  And by the time you arrive, you’re told that you can not go in to see how’s she’s doing.  And when you demand to know why you can’t even though it’s obvious others are allowed in – you’re told; “Because those people are different.

Pam Spaulding, of Pam’s House Blend has two videos on her blog that are worth noting.

Freedom to Marry

Watch for the nuances in this film.  The young woman is writing a letter to her life-partner who has passed away.  Ask yourself while you watch:  Why is there a For Rent sign in front?  Why is she leaving?  She talks about a boy they had together, but he’s now visiting her?

This poor woman, fell in love with another woman who gave birth to their son.  Yet, when her partner passed away, it was her partner’s parents who simply took everything away form her, including her son.  And there’s not a damned thing she can do about it.


This one makes me smile because it puts the hook right back onto the public’s face.  It doesn’t need an explanation, you’ll figure it out within a few seconds.

Deacon Keith Fournier writes in the Catholic On-line:

“Some maintain that same sex attraction is a genetic predisposition. This is disputed. Even if it were the case, that does not give homosexual activity any more of a claim to being given a special civil rights status. Should we really give disordered appetites civil rights status under the law? Let’s consider an absurd example. I have struggled most of my life with fighting obesity. I am on the ‘winning end’ lately, but just give me another Holiday!

“A very good argument can be made that obesity also has a genetic predisposition. However, I will fight it my whole life because it is unhealthy. It is a disordered appetite. Should we as a Nation decide that fat people have a civil right to be fat? Should those who insist that they resist that ‘genetic predisposition’ to overeat be called Fata-phobic?

The Ting Tings: That's not my nameThe Catholic Church has decided that being gay is the same as being fat?  He could have chosen an attribute like ‘left handed”,  “blue eyed” or “attached earlobes”.  Instead – the Deacon has chosen a health issue as a metaphore to excuse his homophobia. However, coming from the largest non-profit organization that peddles in pedophilia, its no wonder the Catholic Church is diminishing into obscurity in this country.